By Cait Collins
Our Director sent an email the other day that really made me think. It went something like this. “Patience is not the ability to wait. It’s the ability to keep a good attitude while you wait.”
I’ll admit patience is not one of my stronger characteristics. I’m better than I used to be, but I’m still not where I want to be. As a writer, I’ve tried to develop my patience. But this can be a frustrating business. I’d submit a novel or a story and get these really nice rejections.
“We’re sorry, but your story, while interesting, does not meet our needs at this time.”
Or, “You have potential, but may I suggest…”
Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate the constructive ideas, but sometimes I just wanted to know what I was doing right. And then a friend would get a first publication and I’d wonder why him or her and not me.
I finally found an answer that helps me. It’s just not my time yet. So what do I do to keep from shooting my computer? I’ve thought about papering my walls with rejection letters and pages from rejected manuscripts. Unfortunately, my apartment complex does not approve of my decorating idea.
I rewrote a novel and realized the second version was a vast improvement over the original.
I killed off a major distraction in a blog.
I edited a finished work.
I read. Not just romance, but mysteries, and selected non-fiction.
I meet with my critique group. They can pick me up when I’m down.
I tell myself that I’m a good writer and someday I’ll have that book contract. Someday.
I really try not to be discouraged. I try not to let the disappointment make me impossible to be around.